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Posted by: Philippa Bond
Date/Time: 08/02/20 01:28:00

When families are no longer all living in the same area it is hard to ask an elderly parent to give up their home to move across the country to somewhere where they can no longer see their own friends and do all the things they are still doing.  Life can become more and more difficult.  It is so important that hearing and sight apptmts are kept up because it becomes more and more difficult to communicate.  It is worth remembering that memory is multi-sensory.   Lack of hearing is implicated in memory loss so wearing the hearing aids is important.  It is also hard to ask children to do the same as they have jobs and careers and their own families.  It does sometimes happen that families move in together though. It would be good if our homes were all more flexible as it seems those of some of our Italian friends are.

Once upon a time an unmarried daughter would get this caring task but nowadays we are all expected to work for a long time to get our pensions.  Carer's allowance stops when you get your pension and many don't qualify for it although much time is spent supervising carers snd filling in/supporting when nobody turns up.  There aren't the good occupational pensions that there used to be.  FIL lived as a pensioner for longer than he did as a worker.  Many are living longer. 

You do have to be prepared to fight for continuing health care.  There are some agencies that can help. Care homes tend to charge more for self-funders than for Council places.  Another inequality.  Councils don't have the money.  In the past some care companies have given their contracts back to Councils because they could not afford to carry on with them.  Age UK is also very helpful when looking for advice.

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How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?07/02/20 18:17:00 Martine Guy
   Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?07/02/20 19:18:00 Andy Pike
   Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?07/02/20 19:20:00 Philippa Bond
      Reply07/02/20 19:33:00 Martine Guy
      Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?07/02/20 19:37:00 Ivonne Holliday
         Re:Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?07/02/20 20:11:00 Andy Pike
            Re:Re:Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 17:22:00 Bunny Payne
         Reply07/02/20 20:13:00 Martine Guy
            Re:Reply07/02/20 20:36:00 Ivonne Holliday
               Reply07/02/20 20:54:00 Martine Guy
                  Re:Reply07/02/20 21:42:00 Lucille Grant
                     Reply07/02/20 22:02:00 Martine Guy
                        Re:Reply08/02/20 01:28:00 Philippa Bond
                           Re:Re:Reply08/02/20 09:06:00 Lucille Grant
                              Re:Re:Re:Reply08/02/20 15:46:00 Philippa Bond
   Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 15:46:00 Ruth Pates
   Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 15:54:00 Ruth Pates
      Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 17:35:00 Bunny Payne
         Reply09/02/20 18:02:00 Martine Guy
            Re:Reply09/02/20 18:09:00 Ruth Pates
         Reply09/02/20 18:29:00 Michael Ixer
         Re:Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 19:44:00 Barbara Stevens
      Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 17:44:00 Caroline Whitehead
         Re:Re:Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?09/02/20 18:07:00 Ruth Pates
            Reply09/02/20 19:20:00 Martine Guy
               Re:Reply09/02/20 19:39:00 Andy Pike
                  Reply09/02/20 20:00:00 Martine Guy
                     Re:Reply09/02/20 21:05:00 Andy Pike
                        Reply09/02/20 21:18:00 Martine Guy
                           Re:Reply09/02/20 21:23:00 Andy Pike
                              Reply09/02/20 21:38:00 Martine Guy
                              Reply09/02/20 22:07:00 Michael Ixer
                     Re:Reply09/02/20 21:37:00 Philippa Bond
                        Reply09/02/20 21:55:00 Martine Guy
                           Re:Reply19/02/20 22:13:00 Philippa Bond
                              Re:Re:Reply19/02/20 23:00:00 Philippa Bond
                              Reply19/02/20 23:08:00 Michael Ixer
                              Reply19/02/20 23:16:00 Martine Guy
   Reply20/02/20 09:35:00 Sean Hodges
   Re:How Do We Solve the Care Crisis?21/02/20 15:42:00 John Hawkes
      Reply21/02/20 17:14:00 Martine Guy
         Reply21/02/20 17:38:00 Martine Guy
         Re:Reply21/02/20 17:39:00 John Hawkes
            Re:Re:Reply21/02/20 17:41:00 John Hawkes
               Re:Re:Re:Reply21/02/20 18:16:00 Jonathan Callaway
                  Reply21/02/20 18:42:00 Martine Guy
               Re:Re:Re:Reply21/02/20 18:54:00 Philippa Bond
                  Re:Re:Re:Re:Reply21/02/20 19:00:00 Philippa Bond
                     Reply21/02/20 19:11:00 Martine Guy
                        Re:Reply21/02/20 19:15:00 Philippa Bond
                           Reply21/02/20 19:51:00 Martine Guy
                              Re:Reply21/02/20 21:07:00 Philippa Bond
                                 Reply21/02/20 21:48:00 Martine Guy
                                    Re:Reply22/02/20 08:58:00 Mike Warman
                                       Reply22/02/20 12:31:00 Martine Guy
                                       Reply22/02/20 15:29:00 Michael Ixer
                                          Re:Reply23/02/20 10:04:00 Philippa Bond
                                             Reply23/02/20 11:43:00 Michael Ixer
                                                Reply23/02/20 14:32:00 Martine Guy
                                                   Reply23/02/20 18:50:00 Michael Ixer
                                                      Re:Reply23/02/20 19:18:00 Jonathan Callaway
                                                         Reply23/02/20 20:06:00 Martine Guy
                                                         Re:Re:Reply23/02/20 22:49:00 Philippa Bond

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